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We should every night call ourselves to an account; What infirmity have I mastered today? What passions opposed? What temptation resisted? What virtue acquired? Our vices will abort of themselves if they be brought every day to the shrift.

Seneca (5 BC – 65 AD)


use the seven habits of highly
effective people to take control of
your life situation and live a more
fullfiled lifestyle, and a happier one.

Habit One: Be Proactive
The first habit of highly effective
people is to take responsibility for
their own lives; if they fail, they have
no one to blame but themselves.
Regardless of how you were raised or
how you were treated at school you
are able to choose your behavior now.
Being proactive means understanding
that you are in control of the direction
your life takes and in control of your
day to day interactions. Whereas a
reactive person is often affected by
their environment and will find
external sources to blame for their
behavior, for example if the weather
is good they are in a good mood but if
the weather is bad it affects their
attitude and so the weather is to
blame for their bad mood.

Habit Two: Begin with the End in
Those who are effective in achieving
their goals are able to envisage their
end result despite the obstacles.
Highly effective people adhere to this
habit based on the principle that all
things are created twice, there is the
first mental creation and then the
second physical creation, and the
physical creation follows the mental
creation in the same way as the
building follows its blueprints.
If you don’t visualize what you want
out of life then you are at risk of
other people and external
circumstances influencing your life
because you are not influencing it
yourself. Instead begin every day and
every task with a clear vision of where
you want to go and how you’re going
to get there and make that vision a
reality with your proactive skills from
habit one.

Habit Three: Put First Things First
Knowing why you are doing
something is an effective motivator in
helping you take the mental creation
and transform that into an actual
physical creation of your goal.
Therefore ask yourself which are the
things you find most valuable and
worthy to you. When you put these
things first you will be organizing and
managing your time aroundyour
personal priorities to make them a
However for many people it is hard to
say no but this is exactly the skill you
have to learn to be able to keep your
goals as your first priority. While we
have all of these time-saving devices
and we are told we can have it all if
we just achieve that elusive work-life
balance, in reality having it all is really
about prioritizing which it is most
important to you to have, and then
doing that properly.

Habit Four: Think Win-Win
Most of us are taught to base our self-
worth on comparisons to others and
competition against our peers. We
think we can only succeed if someone
else has failed and if you win, then
that must mean I lost. We are also
taught that there is only so much pie
to go around and if you get a big
piece then I’m going to be missing
out. When you think like this you are
always going to feel like you’re
missing out on something and nothing
is ever fair. As a result many of us
retaliate and take the pie before
someone else can take it from us.
Thinking in a win-win mindset allows
you to see mutual benefits from all of
your interactions and as a result, you
will see that when you share the pie it
tastes even better. If you are able to
approach conflicts and problems with
a win-win attitude by showing
integrity and standing up for your true
feelings and values, it allows you to
express your ideas and feelings with
courage while having consideration for
the feelings and ideas of others. When
you focus on an abundance mentality,
you are able to see that there is
enough for everyone and you can see
that balancing your confidence with
empathy can help you achieve your
goals while helping others achieve

Habit Five: Communication
Communication is often the desire to
be heard and understood and most
people will listen with the intention to
reply to what you’re saying rather
than to understand what you have
said. However, to effectively
communicate you need to first
understand and then be understood
because if you communicate with the
sole intention of being understood you
can find that you ignore what others
are saying and miss their meaning

Habit Six: Synergize
Interactions and teamwork are some
of the most important ways you can
learn new skills and more effective
behaviors. To synergize is the habit of
creative cooperation where you work
as a team to find new solutions to
existing problems. Synergy is not
something which just happens but is a
process where you need to bring all of
your personal experiences and
expertise to the table to enable more
effective results than you would have
been able to achieve individually – the
whole is greater than the sum of its
When you have genuine interactions
with people you are able to gain new
insights and see new approaches to
your problems which you would not
have otherwise thought of.

Habit Seven: Sharpen the Saw
You are the greatest asset you have
on your journey to achieving the
lifestyle you want and so you need to
look after yourself physically,
emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
When you take time to renew yourself
in all four areas of your life you are
creating growth and change which
allow you to continue with the
previous six habits you have
mastered, which still need to be
maintained to achieve success.

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